History isn’t just a storybook. It’s a mirror, and sometimes a magnifying glass. As Juneteenth approaches, many leaders glance back at the past with reverence. Fewer, however, ask what it means to truly lead forward with the weight of that past in view.

At DCH Coaching, I work with leaders who want to create meaningful impact. And around this time each year, there’s a particular invitation worth sitting with: How do we honor the legacy of freedom, resilience, and resistance in our leadership today?

Because legacy isn’t a monument. It’s a practice.

Somewhere between the Zoom echo chambers and the Slack noise, a quiet truth is whispering to us:

The best leaders are often the quietest ones.

Not the ones with the grandstanding monologues, or the ones who dominate the whiteboard, but those who know how to hold a moment, hold a gaze, and—most importantly—hold space for others.

I’ve coached enough leaders to know: there’s a kind of magic in leaders who listen well. It’s not passive. It’s not weak. It’s not a placeholder for the "real" work of leading. It is the real work. And yet, in a world that rewards the loudest voice in the room, listening can feel almost radical.

Let’s get something straight: ego isn’t a four-letter word. Well, it is, technically, but it’s not inherently evil. A healthy ego is what gets you out of bed, into the meeting, and through the tough conversation. It’s what says, “Yes, I can do this.”

But when confidence crosses into overconfidence? That’s where things start to unravel, often in subtle, slow-motion ways. And leaders? We’re especially susceptible.

Let’s face it, we’ve all had that moment when we’re trying to rally a team, lead a meeting, or give a toast and suddenly think, “How would Morgan Freeman say this?” It’s a fair question. Because when it comes to influence, we’ve been conditioned to associate impact with polish, charisma, and the booming cadence of a Hollywood voiceover.

But real influence - the kind that makes people sit up, lean in, and take action - has less to do with performance and more to do with presence. Specifically, authentic presence.

There’s a strange myth in leadership—the idea that a great leader must be an unshakable, all-knowing, superhero-type figure who never sweats under pressure. If that were true, we’d all need capes and theme music just to survive a Monday morning staff meeting. But real leadership isn’t about putting on an invincible mask—it’s about taking it off.